Cigars?? I'm speechless.
About Me:
I enjoy travel, exploring new places, the ocean, cultural things, dining out, and reading. More versed than average about current events, opinionated, and enjoy stimulating discourse about issues.
Kind, compassionate, intelligent, humorous, giving, loving, quiet, romantic, sensuous, and pleasant are some words that describe me.
As you may have deduced from the headline, I have some tendencies toward what may be considered an "alternate lifestyle."
But, then again, maybe there are a lot of people out there who want to role play and try something different in their private lives. I'm not sure and although I've wanted to participate, I don't really want to join a bdsm "club" and I don't know how to bring this up in conversation when trying to get to know people. Then again, I don't want to spend years building a "vanilla" relationship only to find out that my fantasies repulse my partner.
So, here I am at an online dating site putting this right out there before we even meet...I'm not certain this is a great idea yet, but we'll see.
Although I've been attracted to these types of things all my life, I'm just starting to put some effort into incorporating these elements in my life and seeking a dominant woman to mentor me. Hoping to find someone who is patient and will take things slow... Or an emerging dominant who will explore new things with me. I have a bdsm fetish as well as capnolagnia--I love watching a woman light and smoke a large gauge cigar while I am bound and gagged! Willing to learn and eager to please the right domina. Hopefully you are kind as well as cruel. Well, hopefully, you're not "really" cruel... You know what I mean.
Now, you don't have to be a cigar aficionado. In fact, you don't even have to be a smoker at all to enjoy an occasional cigar. You don't inhale cigar smoke. Please just be willing to indulge me in my fetish occasionally.
Of course, you understand that being submissive does not mean desiring to be mistreated. You respect me as a human being, as I respect you, and realize that even though I want to be slapped, have you speak assertively to me, and be made to get on my knees and lick your boots (and other things as you require which we mutually agree upon), this doesn't mean I want to be "abused" (although society at large may view these things as mistreatment on its surface). You know there's a difference between consensual torture and abuse, and you use caution to protect me and insure my safety as I trust you with my life during our intimate play time.
In public, I am a perfect gentleman toward you and no one would guess of my submissive tendencies. Maybe we'll explore some public exhibition if you like.
In day-to-day life, I treat you like the lady you are. I am not a "sissy." In fact, you would probably consider me to be a dominant personality type, but there is a part of me that finds it erotic to give you complete control and to be utterly at your mercy.
The fact that you exert control and inflict a certain amount of discomfort creates a certain tension. How you protect, respect, and care for me brings comfort and pleasure in your arms.
Getting beat up is no fun! It's the fact that you CAN torture and abuse me, yet you choose to tease me a little, show me that you have complete control, and then show me love and compassion by a tender touch or kiss, or by feeding me with my hands and feet tied, or any number of kind acts that show love and mercy. That's what brings sensual pleasure.
I don't think I'm looking for a 24/7 Master/slave relationship. Would like to have a vanilla dating relationship and role play in private once we're comfortable with each other and just see how things progress. As I am new and exploring I'm not really sure exactly what I want. Does this make sense?
Interestingly, I would not be unwilling to help you fulfill your submissive fantasies. I could play the dominant role for you to help you achieve your own fantasies in a safe, loving environment.
As someone with my own submissive fantasies, I think I might be able to uniquely understand and fulfill yours.
So, maybe even if we are both submissives, we could help each other...
It's important to understand that I'm looking for a relationship, not just a romp in the hay. I don't want to share or be shared with others. Not just looking for "casual encounters". Who knows where this could lead. I would like to be married someday.
Thank you for taking the time to read this introduction.
About Me:
I enjoy travel, exploring new places, the ocean, cultural things, dining out, and reading. More versed than average about current events, opinionated, and enjoy stimulating discourse about issues.
Kind, compassionate, intelligent, humorous, giving, loving, quiet, romantic, sensuous, and pleasant are some words that describe me.
As you may have deduced from the headline, I have some tendencies toward what may be considered an "alternate lifestyle."
But, then again, maybe there are a lot of people out there who want to role play and try something different in their private lives. I'm not sure and although I've wanted to participate, I don't really want to join a bdsm "club" and I don't know how to bring this up in conversation when trying to get to know people. Then again, I don't want to spend years building a "vanilla" relationship only to find out that my fantasies repulse my partner.
So, here I am at an online dating site putting this right out there before we even meet...I'm not certain this is a great idea yet, but we'll see.
Although I've been attracted to these types of things all my life, I'm just starting to put some effort into incorporating these elements in my life and seeking a dominant woman to mentor me. Hoping to find someone who is patient and will take things slow... Or an emerging dominant who will explore new things with me. I have a bdsm fetish as well as capnolagnia--I love watching a woman light and smoke a large gauge cigar while I am bound and gagged! Willing to learn and eager to please the right domina. Hopefully you are kind as well as cruel. Well, hopefully, you're not "really" cruel... You know what I mean.
Now, you don't have to be a cigar aficionado. In fact, you don't even have to be a smoker at all to enjoy an occasional cigar. You don't inhale cigar smoke. Please just be willing to indulge me in my fetish occasionally.
Of course, you understand that being submissive does not mean desiring to be mistreated. You respect me as a human being, as I respect you, and realize that even though I want to be slapped, have you speak assertively to me, and be made to get on my knees and lick your boots (and other things as you require which we mutually agree upon), this doesn't mean I want to be "abused" (although society at large may view these things as mistreatment on its surface). You know there's a difference between consensual torture and abuse, and you use caution to protect me and insure my safety as I trust you with my life during our intimate play time.
In public, I am a perfect gentleman toward you and no one would guess of my submissive tendencies. Maybe we'll explore some public exhibition if you like.
In day-to-day life, I treat you like the lady you are. I am not a "sissy." In fact, you would probably consider me to be a dominant personality type, but there is a part of me that finds it erotic to give you complete control and to be utterly at your mercy.
The fact that you exert control and inflict a certain amount of discomfort creates a certain tension. How you protect, respect, and care for me brings comfort and pleasure in your arms.
Getting beat up is no fun! It's the fact that you CAN torture and abuse me, yet you choose to tease me a little, show me that you have complete control, and then show me love and compassion by a tender touch or kiss, or by feeding me with my hands and feet tied, or any number of kind acts that show love and mercy. That's what brings sensual pleasure.
I don't think I'm looking for a 24/7 Master/slave relationship. Would like to have a vanilla dating relationship and role play in private once we're comfortable with each other and just see how things progress. As I am new and exploring I'm not really sure exactly what I want. Does this make sense?
Interestingly, I would not be unwilling to help you fulfill your submissive fantasies. I could play the dominant role for you to help you achieve your own fantasies in a safe, loving environment.
As someone with my own submissive fantasies, I think I might be able to uniquely understand and fulfill yours.
So, maybe even if we are both submissives, we could help each other...
It's important to understand that I'm looking for a relationship, not just a romp in the hay. I don't want to share or be shared with others. Not just looking for "casual encounters". Who knows where this could lead. I would like to be married someday.
Thank you for taking the time to read this introduction.
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